Now all the celandines are open they are not as nice. Now in the dull weather they all turn their backs. They are like a crowd all turning away from you. They are not as nice as they were. There are ways of looking at things, and there are ways of not looking at things.
A long time ago my mother siad that she assumed gay people got married to each other just like anybody else. At the time I said yes,but thought the answer rather inadequate. The answer was inadequate so it is not surprising thast it felt that way. Gay couple seem to be more able to make their own solutions. They have less expectations of the roles played out in relationships. Straight couples accept from society an image of married life that moulds and constrains in a way that no gay couple has. Each gay couple have to cut their own path. There is no value judgement in that. It is more than equal one way or another. One takes this the other chooses not to. The one is one thing, the other is another. Straight couples are moulded, supported and constrained by a socially imposed image of marriage in a way that no couple could be.
Each gay relationship cuts its own path.
Isn't that a gross generalisation?
Yes.
Isn't that a gross generalisation?
Yes it is a gross generalisation. Yes but you have to keep the comment in a reasonable context. Not to restrict it to individuals. It is a generalisation. It should be treated as a generalisation. Nothing is true. Nothing is so true that it is inviolate. Nothing is so true that there is no flexibility in it at all. If there was it could be used as a base to build with absolute logic structures of absolute validity. Isn't that a gross generalisation. Yes but nothing is true absolutely. We have to learn how to make the best of useful generalisations. The question is more usefully expressed "what use can I make I make of that generalistion and viewpoint" and the "is there a more useful viewpoint"?
That gives a better starting point around which to orchestrate information from all degrees. It is simply a more useful viewpoint from which to work.
Learning is presented most easily as a linear process. Block upon block step by step. Learning is most easily presented as a linear process when in fact it is most usefully seen as a simultaneous process. All by all, now by now here by here. Learning simultaneously the ways in which similarities between people are important. Learning simultaneously the ways in which differences between people are important. Learning simultaneously the ways in which similarities between people are not important. Learning simultaneously the ways in which information advances understanding and the way information retards understanding.
Growing and learning and understanding continue in all directions, extending constantly outwards and inwards. It is the knowing of something that really matters, more so by far than the something that is known. Virtuosity is important. Freedom grows out of virtuosity. Virtuosity is important. Freedom grows out of virtuosity. Sometimes the strangest things turn out to be bedfellows. The strangeness lies in the observer not the bedfellows. It is a restriction, a narrowing, an unsuitability of outlook. It is expectationin a world that does not expect itself into the future piece by piece. People generally learn most rapidly by concentrating in just one direction. That is the way to collect facts. It is the way to virtuosity. Simultaneous learning is often the process of forgetting virtuosity completely. People learn in bursts of virtuosity. the point at which they are satisfied and cut off the learning process varies. It is insecurity and fear of inadequacy that motivates the learning process. It is wanting to find out in order to be sure of things. This is what drives people to learn. They achieve the level of virtuosity required to dispel their insecurity. They achieve that level if virtuosity that gives them the degree of self esteem needed. They take that self esteem needed to build an individual identity for themselves from the world. Achievement is never measured in absolute terms against an amount of information available to be learnt, it is measured always against what other people have done before. There is always a steady advance of standards, because each generation of learners grow to equal or exceed the best before them, and then the impetus to go further stops. They are the best, so nobody but the next generation can exceed them. Some people need to take very little self esteem from their learning in order to establish their identity. Some people need a great deal of virtuosity in order to establish any form of personal identity. Some people need to not establish a level of virtuosity in order to reinforce with negative virtuosity a form of personal identity. Some people need to achieve excellence, virtuosity, top world ranking in order to establish any form of self esteem and personal identity to escape from learning. Some never escape formal learning. The most 'able' people are of necessity the least secure personalities in that sense. The least able, pushy, achievers are the most individually secure.
She said it in the open. Dealt with it there and then. Tried to dispose of it for good. But it will still return to her later. She has still not let go of it. I understand so fully the situation. I was here before she played the other part. Now she plays my part then. Follows exactly my route. But she does not let go. It will return to her later as it tried with me. There is only one sensible response. well you were right again. There is only one sensible response and now as the situation turns around you follow it too. Do you see yourself any more fully by playing both parts? Do you recognise that you have played both parts ar do you still see it as Dieter does. Totally from one perspective. You have never been here before. No but this situation has! It is just that at the time you were standing in the other place. Do you recognise the situation or still only see your own actions in time?